How not to whine


Whining won't help. Not you and not anybody. That's one of the first things you learn in NLP. But you need to communicate a problem you are having. You need to clearly state what's wrong. How can you do that without whining? Here's some thoughts:

I'm writing these things down here as much for my own benefit as that of my reader(s). It's too easy to forget and fall back on the well worn strategy of complaining and whining. We learned that as children, and back then is might have been usefull. "Mommieeeee.... " How's that for giving up control? Someone else needs to make us feel good again, needs to solve our problems?

We need to learn that ultimately we and only we ourselves are in any position to get our lives sorted out. And only if we do so ourselves will we really be happy with it.


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